How to Build Confidence in Your Wardrobe
I have been working hard behind the scenes with my current wardrobe and I thought I should share my tips on what I have done to feel confident in what I wear.
If you follow me on social media you are well aware that I have decide to build a type of capsule wardrobe and get rid of anything that didn’t fit my style, body, or daily wear. I am just past having a ton of stuff in my house and this is the best way for me to get anything that I don’t love out of it.
I am a sahm of a busy body two year old and I need everything in my wardrobe to fit that life. I finally came to terms with it and that was really the first step to building my confidence in my wardrobe.
I am sharing all the ways I changed my mindset and wardrobe essentials.
Stop wearing clothing you are NOT comfortable in
If you are constantly pulling, or tugging on clothing because it doesn’t fit properly, doesn’t compliment your skin tone or you just don’t feel yourself in. Get rid of it. It isn’t for you.
If you don’t fit in it now, don’t buy it.
Stop making yourself feel bad about your body because you currently don’t fit into something in your closet or something you are trying to purchase.
It really doesn’t boost your self-esteem and makes you feel bad for being human why do you want that negativity in your life or your closet. Clothes are supposed to make you feel good about yourself, or at least compliment what you already have going on.
If you do have a goal body and want to buy one item that helps you feel great about achieving that goal, I totally support that. But ONE item, not an entire wardrobe.
Quality over Quantity
I really want to get better quality items into my wardrobe but I also love staying on trend so it can be hard at times to do this without going the budget friendly route.
I recently found myself at F21 buying lower quality items because I am doing last minute shopping for a quick trip to Nashville. I am still debating on return some of the items to the store.
What I try my hardest to do is buy clothing out of season in hopes that it will still be in season when it rolls back around. I do this a lot.
You are still able to get quality items and still within a budget friendly mind. I love blogger Nadine Rebecca because she does this often and also shows you how to style items you have already with a series called #liftedherlook, you can read through her blog to see how she explains it or check out her IG.
Buy colors that you can transition into all seasons
This is the hardest thing for me!
I try to remember what colors I have in my closet already. I don’t need 5 mustard colored items, or 7 lime green or hot pink colors that I can ONLY wear in the summer or fall months.
I love adding color into my wardrobe but remember those things can also be added with an accessory as well. I love hints of color verses an entire outfit of bright colors.
If that is your jam then more power to you, no hate here just not for me.
But if you are looking for a versatile closet, it is best to just have one or two items that you can weave into your spring/summer/fall/winter wardrobe and store away when you don’t need them.
Be intentional with your purchases
For the longest time I would go to the store and just pick up random items so nothing in my wardrobe complimented anything else.
I would then find myself back at the store trying to find things that paired well with an item or returning it because I had no business having in the first place.
Here’s what I did to fix it.
I went through my Pinterest Style Board, and looked through the things I liked or wanted to wear and if my wardrobe or the item I was trying to purchase didn’t align with that. I got rid of it or never purchased it.
Another tip is to create an album on your phone of items in your wardrobe whether it is your favorite shirt, the jeans you just purchased or even a Pinterest outfit you are trying to achieve.
Some store’s wi-fi mess with your service and it is so frustrating to have a little one in the store while trying to put an outfit together or login to a wifi connection when all you have to do is look through your photos.
If you haven’t worn it in 6 months [unless it is seasonal] get rid of it.
Girls! I can’t even tell you how much crap I got rid of that I had never worn. The most depressing thing I have done lately because it is so much money wasted.
I had items in my closet that I had originally bought to photograph for a blog post, or thought it would be great for an IG flat lay, or etc. .
If I don’t actually wear it, then I don’t need to post it to my blog or act like it is something I would wear for likes. NO thank you.
I feel like more people can relate to you when you show your true self because there are more people out there like us than we think.
Being who you are can help someone be more comfortable with who they are.
Try things on
Don’t roll your eyes at me!
We all were created differently and uniquely, so when something fits one of our favorite bloggers, or our girlfriends that doesn’t always mean it will fit us the same way.
The sisterhood of the traveling pants doesn’t work in the real world.
As much as I absolutely despise trying things on it is the fastest way to avoid taking home something you just end up having to return to the store.
I have a little guy who is always with me and I do understand how hard it is, so if you do take something home try it on as soon as possible and if you don’t love it or can’t pair it with something you have. RETURN IT!
Don’t forget the shoes!
How many times have you come home with an amazing outfit just to realize you don’t have the shoes to wear with it.
Instead of buying clothing for shoes you don’t have try to remember or take a picture of what you DO have and compliment that.
If you need new shoes because like me you are horrible on shoes, then remember what you are comfortable in and compliment your life.
I don’t wear heels often so I waited for a BOGO sale at Target and bought a couple of pairs of chunky heels in three different colors. Wedges and chunky heels are the extent of my heels now a days and I am totally fine with that.
I also love to wear converse, vans, or sperry type loafers for every day. They are easy to slip on and I can pair them with a bunch of items. I will also buy a couple of flats or strappy sandals for skirts and dress for Sundays with the boys.
Pops of Color with Accessories
Okay I will admit I don’t do accessories well.
I am even worst since I had J because I didn’t want things to scratch him or hurt him when I loaded him in his car seat, or had to grab him quickly in the store which is often.
But since I am trying to do my best to have a versatile wardrobe, I am going to start getting some accessories that may add a pop of color to outfits rather than the actual outfit itself.
You can do this with jewelry, bags/wallets, or hair accessories.
Stop comparing your body to everyone else
As women we really need to start loving ourselves more.
I say this as a women who /struggles/ with this at my current weight, I feel like I felt so much better in my body last year because I was active in working out.
This year has been a bit tougher because J just hasn’t wanted to be at the gym day care and he loves his mama too much [at least that is what I am telling myself].
I struggle with self-confidence but I am working on it and I don’t need to make myself feel bad about my body by putting clothing on that I don’t fit in or feel myself in.
Buying a size too small just because in my mind I’ll fit in it sooner than later, or the “bloat” will go away isn’t setting myself up to build my confidence.
We have to be proactive, the mind is a tricky space but setting yourself up for failure isn’t productive or kind.
Favorite Style Bloggers I love to reference
Building a wardrobe can be hard and I wish I had all of the style tips and tricks for you guys but over the years these ladies have helped me so much.
I am 5’1 and it is really hard to find style or ways to wear clothing that helps me figure out what works and what doesn’t.
These girls help me figure out what I like and what won’t work for me.
Lee Ann Benjamin - Budget friendly style
Andee Layne - still remembering I am a hip mom with style
Naomi Boyer - how to wear items that I love without looking frumpy.
Miss Louie - Petite Styles that work for my body, putting outfits together well.