Being myself.

The Lavender Look: a soft spring inspired make up look
 “It’s a hell of a responsibility to be yourself. It’s much easier to be somebody else or nobody at all.” - Sylvia Plath

I was scrolling through one of my under-utilized social medias and found this quote up there and it couldn't be more relevant to my life.   

I recently took these photos of a beauty look I was hoping to achieve and it totally went in the wrong direction, the light from the day faded and I didn't have the colors I needed to photograph the "look" I thought I wanted.  I got something much, much more though. 

This blogging thing has been pretty frustrating for me the past couple of years solely because I am refusing to sell myself short and do the entire loop bloggers, follow unfollow thing that all the bloggers do.

I also don't have a lot of support from people who already know me and sometimes I just get totally burnt out when trying to build my followers, but I don't just want people who tap, I want the conversation starters, the lovers and the genuine people that will actually get something from my content and live better lives.

Making a difference here is so much more important to me. 

If I make someone feel better, or love themselves more that makes me happier than a bunch of likes on a social media account. 

One day my husband told me why don't you just do it for fun and see where it goes, forget about earning money and at first it really pissed me off because I felt like he just didn't understand. Not bringing in an income after leaving my job was tough, I felt useless. 

But he was so right.  Please don't tell him I said this. Because he is wrong and I am always right.

I can't do what everyone else is doing and expect to stand out because I never will. I have to create something that is all me, all the time.  

Of course, I would love, love to at least pay for my makeup and clothing expenses with funds from this year blog because momma loves her some clothes & trying new make-up but what will be, will be.  Put it out in the world and it will happen right?  

Also shout out to @girrlscout for being one of those inspiring people I have followed for a while now, who made me feel like I could be me and that falling in love with myself was something that was needed not only wanted.

Make Up:
Shadow Palette Urban Decay - Beauty with an Edge
Eylure Eyelashes - Accents No 003
Anastasia Beverly Hills Brow Definer
Maybelline Curvacious Black
Maybelline SuperStay MatteInk - Visionary 
Becca Cosmetics Champagne Pop Highlighter


3 : 18 : 17 | Marriage

3:18:17 | Marriage - hello there, love. blog

"Marry your best friend.  I do not say that lightly.  Really, truly find the strongest, happiest friendship in the person you fall in love with.  Someone who speaks highly of you.  Someone you can laugh with.  The kind of laughs that make your belly ache, and your nose snort.  Wit is important.  Life is too short not to love someone who lets you be a fool with them.  Make sure they are somebody who let's you cry too.  Despair will come. Find someone that you want to be there through those times. Most importantly, marry the one that makes passion, love and madness combine and course through you.  
A love that will never dilute - even when the waters get deep and dark. - unknown


Marriage isn't easy, it is very very hard.  It takes strength, passion, and perseverance.

It takes strength to get through the hard times, passion to keep it spicy, and perseverance to keep it alive. 

Marriage is something that cannot be confined into a box or be guided by some set of standards, even if some try. Marriage is something that takes a lot of work and patience.  It is the sacred, blessed merging of two souls into one. Against odds and even with favor it is a struggle. It is learning to forgive and forget. 

E and I will be married for 6 years tomorrow.  Time has flown and while I wish I could say that we are the most perfect couple in the world.  We have had our fair share of ups and downs.  As I look back and reflect about our marriage I can easily see times in all the years we have been together that our marriage could've been torn apart. But we stood by one another, and took those struggles and let it help us build our marriage instead of break it down. 

You see you can either stand by and watch something fall, you can hold something up or you can pick up the pieces once they have fell and start over again. It is all a choice, and we over the years have chose to do all of those.  We have fallen, we have held each other up, and we have picked up the pieces.  

And honestly it has made us better, together and individually. 

Over the years, we have blended more and more into one another.  I always tell E that I fit perfectly into him like we were made for one another and I truly believe we were.  Since E is a lot taller than I am, my head fits perfectly into his chest when we hug.  I literally fit into him.  

And now that we finally have our son [who is by far the best combination of each of us that I have ever seen], I know his birth has and will bring us closer together.

unsolicited, corny marriage advice: 


be with your best friend

be with someone you can live without you but choose not to.

be with someone who will love you even though you tell them to choose the restaurant but then say you don't want that.  

be with someone who will buy you flowers once in a while, because he knows you secretly want them even if you try to act like you aren't that girl.  

be with someone who makes you feel like every single love song is about you.

be with someone who tells you your losing your butt because you really are, and seriously need to do some squats. 

be with someone who calls you when you were just thinking about them.

be with someone who your parents ask for anytime they see you. because you aren't their only daughter for crying out loud. 

be with someone who cooks dinner and plates it pretty so you can take photos for the blog.  

be with someone who enjoys the Sonic commercials just as much as you do, maybe even more.

be with someone who wants to grow old with you.

be with someone who wants to make babies with you. 

be with someone who despite all of your flaws, still loves you regardless.

be with someone who makes going through the struggles of life a little easier because they are by your side. 

And finally be with someone who makes you, you.  Who corny as it sounds, "completes" you. 

eric b collins, you're my love song.