Weekend Recap: Mother's Day Fail.

Mother's Day was great!
My attitude on the other hand not so much.

If you saw my instagram post on this topic then you know exactly what I am talking about. 

So my Mother's Day fail started on Saturday evening and apparently I was on a roll and wanted it to last the entire weekend, E came home with my gift and I was like nope, I don't want that.  Then to top it off I decided to have an attitude that E decided to leave the house to do a little work for his regular job on Sunday morning.  Now this I am still a little upset about and feel as though my feelings are in the right to an extent, but I am going to put my pride and attitude aside and be thankful and grateful that our finances and lives are being handled. 

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I'm feeling 32

Turning 32

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Wow! y'all today I turn 32!

At some point last year I guess between having a baby and becoming a sahm I lost an entire year of my life. I somehow didn't remember turning 31 and still thought for most of the year I was 30. Time flies, you don't necessarily have to be having fun. 

With that said the past year has taught me a lot!

Lesson learned:

It has taught me that karma is indeed a bitch.

People will lose interest in you

You will lose yourself. 

Life will continue without you. 

Hard times, good times and all the in-between will come at you like a freight train, whether you like it or not.

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People you didn't think were there for you are, people that you did aren't.  

Post-partum depression has nothing to do with how much you love your child.  And you have no control over it. 

Loving your child has nothing to do with how much you love your husband. 

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Taking time for yourself isn't selfish, it's self-care nothing works well without maintenance. 

You will have to learn all over again how to date, even if it is the man you started dating 12 years ago and married 7.  

Resting Bitch Face is common, you aren't alone.

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Motherhood is a job for which you never get paid by monetary value, nor will some ever know your true worth. "Aint no women alive that could take my Mama's place" - Tupac

Regardless of how exceptionally dressed you are, your child will throw a tantrum anywhere, anytime. No fucks given.  

Your child will love you more than any toy, clothes, or cartoon character. Be present

Note to self:

I recently watched a YouTube video by Kalynn Nichols where she said something along the lines of no matter what the year had in store for you goods or bad, it taught you something and therefore be grateful it happened.

Not in those exact shitty words but you get the jist of what I am saying. 

A lot of incredibly shitty things happened to me last year, a lot of incredibly amazing things happened for me last year.

The great thing about living is the ability to have another year to mend relationships, have more babies, love better, dance more, travel often, eat well, and love life. 

So cheers year 32, let's see what you've got for me.   

Thankful.

Giving Thanks, during Thanksgiving - Happy Thanksgiving | hello there, love. blog

Thanksgiving is just around the corner and I wanted to get a post out there that really hits home on the thankful part of it all. 

Holidays are mostly all about the production of it all and we tend to forget about all the gratefulness and thankfulness we should "promote".  Especially after standing over a stove, or getting a family ready to go, or running to different family members house's to celebrate with everyone, then imagine if it was all of the above

Life for me hasn't been all roses and rainbows this year, it has been amazing because we have J, but we have had struggles in our marriage and it is easy at times to let the bad outway the good. I struggled with the staying home part of the stay-at-home-mom scenario this year, it is tough because after working for half of my life it was hard to not feel like I didn't matter because I wasn't bringing in any of my own money. 

But there is nothing greater than J, there is nothing better than choosing us, and there is nothing better than defeating the hate and moving forward. 

But there is nothing greater than J, there is nothing better than choosing us, there is nothing better than defeating the hate and moving forward. 

You can totally be negative Nancy [sorry if your name is Nancy], you can let all of the bad in life become you, you can also be that person that no one wants to be around, you can be the person who allows all that happens to you bring you down instead of bringing you up. Or you can put up everything that is on the floor and piece it back together, put on some lipstick and make you better despite all of the 💩 you have gone through. 

If you havent read my blog post on choices you definitely should. We can have it all, it all depends on how you look at life, what you let keep you down [notice I didn't say get you down] because you have to make the choice to get back up. 

Be thankful for the good and bad in life, because there could've been issues that we would've never got through in our marriage without despair. We aren't perfect and that is totally fine but I am thankful for all the issues we have gone through because i feel like it finally led us to be real with one another. Some days are harder and some days are easier it's life, but the choice of how you react, you get up is all yours. 

I am thankful for this year, I am thankful for the people in my life, I'm thankful for the people not in my life and I am so, so thankful for J. And I am thankful for all of the readers and friends I have because of this little blog here. 

3 : 18 : 17 | Marriage

3:18:17 | Marriage - hello there, love. blog
 

"Marry your best friend.  I do not say that lightly.  Really, truly find the strongest, happiest friendship in the person you fall in love with.  Someone who speaks highly of you.  Someone you can laugh with.  The kind of laughs that make your belly ache, and your nose snort.  Wit is important.  Life is too short not to love someone who lets you be a fool with them.  Make sure they are somebody who let's you cry too.  Despair will come. Find someone that you want to be there through those times. Most importantly, marry the one that makes passion, love and madness combine and course through you.  
A love that will never dilute - even when the waters get deep and dark. - unknown

 

Marriage isn't easy, it is very very hard.  It takes strength, passion, and perseverance.

It takes strength to get through the hard times, passion to keep it spicy, and perseverance to keep it alive. 

Marriage is something that cannot be confined into a box or be guided by some set of standards, even if some try. Marriage is something that takes a lot of work and patience.  It is the sacred, blessed merging of two souls into one. Against odds and even with favor it is a struggle. It is learning to forgive and forget. 

E and I will be married for 6 years tomorrow.  Time has flown and while I wish I could say that we are the most perfect couple in the world.  We have had our fair share of ups and downs.  As I look back and reflect about our marriage I can easily see times in all the years we have been together that our marriage could've been torn apart. But we stood by one another, and took those struggles and let it help us build our marriage instead of break it down. 

You see you can either stand by and watch something fall, you can hold something up or you can pick up the pieces once they have fell and start over again. It is all a choice, and we over the years have chose to do all of those.  We have fallen, we have held each other up, and we have picked up the pieces.  

And honestly it has made us better, together and individually. 

Over the years, we have blended more and more into one another.  I always tell E that I fit perfectly into him like we were made for one another and I truly believe we were.  Since E is a lot taller than I am, my head fits perfectly into his chest when we hug.  I literally fit into him.  

And now that we finally have our son [who is by far the best combination of each of us that I have ever seen], I know his birth has and will bring us closer together.

unsolicited, corny marriage advice: 

 

be with your best friend

be with someone you can live without you but choose not to.

be with someone who will love you even though you tell them to choose the restaurant but then say you don't want that.  

be with someone who will buy you flowers once in a while, because he knows you secretly want them even if you try to act like you aren't that girl.  

be with someone who makes you feel like every single love song is about you.

be with someone who tells you your losing your butt because you really are, and seriously need to do some squats. 

be with someone who calls you when you were just thinking about them.

be with someone who your parents ask for anytime they see you. because you aren't their only daughter for crying out loud. 

be with someone who cooks dinner and plates it pretty so you can take photos for the blog.  

be with someone who enjoys the Sonic commercials just as much as you do, maybe even more.

be with someone who wants to grow old with you.

be with someone who wants to make babies with you. 

be with someone who despite all of your flaws, still loves you regardless.

be with someone who makes going through the struggles of life a little easier because they are by your side. 

And finally be with someone who makes you, you.  Who corny as it sounds, "completes" you. 

eric b collins, you're my love song.