Mama Moments

A couple of weeks ago I stumbled upon a blog while I was looking for #mommybloggers like myself and found the Honest Mama Blog, written by Hannah and it was one of those findings that was the right time, right place type of thing.

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After reading most of the things she wrote, I  thought well maybe I should start a series here on my blog doing something similar.  Now I am no where near as great of a writer as Hannah and I entirely encourage you to read a lot of what she wrote because not only is it good writing but a lot of what she has to say isn't out there in the world. And us not-so-perfect Mama's need to hear it. 

The world has sugar-coated everything out there regarding Motherhood and made a lot of us feel like shitty mom's because our experience isn't what everyone says it would be/should be. 

Mothering at it's finest is hard. If you find a mom on social or in real life that is acting like her shit is together, she is doing just that acting. 

Now don't get me wrong motherhood has it's perks.  The moment when Jax says "mama", I am all weak in the knees in love, or when he cuddles me in the morning.  When he grabs my hand to walk down the stairs, or when he finds me in the middle of the night so he can lay next to me.  It is the absolute best feeling in the world and I am so grateful to be his mama. Absolutely grateful!

All of those plus much much more is the great part about being a mommy/parent.  But then you also have other moments that no one tells you about or they forget completely.  

And they leave you feeling like you should be walking around with a shirt that says world worst mom, ever! 

Because there are those moments where you are like "I am getting one thing from the store and then we will head back home", so you don't pack all of the things for the baby on your way out, like a change of clothes and he ends up somehow peeing through his diaper and all over his clothing. 

So instead of  the one thing, it turns into a bunch of things and you can never cleverly explain to your husband why you can never walk out of Target under $100 ๐Ÿคฆ๐Ÿฝโ€โ™€๏ธ

Moral of the story motherhood can be very hard at times and you need all the help and support you can get, my advice to you is take it. If they are offering more than likely they want to watch you little one, or they know what exhaustion looks like, feels like and honestly just want to help. 

Another note, the judgement from others has been there all your life and it just intensifies when you become a mommy, my recommendation is to develop thicker skin, or don't give a shit mentality, and you keep your head held high.

Monthly Photo Round Up: February

hello loves!
So I am going to be honest here, while I had the entire month of March planned out I ended up taking some of those post and posting them in February so I need to fix some things.

But, I also didn't have a post ready and while I am sitting here at !:15a with a numb butt and partially falling off our king size bed, I in the spur of the moment came up with this great idea to do a monthly recap of last month photos.  

My idea is that I share images that were taken on my phone or Sony A6000 but wasn't shared on social, so only my blog readers can actually see them.  Plus this is a great way for me to recap what silly images I still keep in my phone and maybe encourage me to get rid of a few others.

I have a really bad habit of never deleting or backing up my phone so I have a ton of images on my phone that broke of J that I didn't save anywhere.  And I was the one preaching to everyone to back their photos up.  That didn't teach me any lessons and I lost a lot of photos, but take my advice and back your photos up to Google Photos or Amazon Prime if you already have a subscription, it is totally worth it.  

I do also want to start printing some of my iPhone photo.  If you have any that you have used like chatbooks, or whatever let me know I'd love to hear your feedback. 

Let's get into the photos of February from my iPhone.

I have some other ideas that I am thinking of too and maybe I'll post them on stories and get some feedback from y'all as well. If you don't follow me on instagram yet please do!  

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Feb 28// J at the park

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Feb 27// night time, bathroom lights shining through our bathroom doors. ย 

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J throwing a fit at the doctor's office ๐Ÿคฆ๐Ÿฝโ€โ™€๏ธย 

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Churros & Gringos

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I painted my own damn nails 

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Mom is it ever going to stop raining?ย 

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Main event

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the main event 

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Self Love + Body Goals

hello there, loves!

2018 

It is officially 2018 and whilst I have been under the weather and so had J, the other day I had a moment where I stopped and looked at myself in the mirror and was kind of in a little bit of a shock/awe state. I was genuinely amazed at all my body has gone through and while I know it is less than most, and more than some it doesn't take away what it has accomplished. 

I have to put in kind of a disclaimer here, this year's body goals are simply to eat better, and live better than last year.  I am in no way shape or form going to put some ideal image in my head in hopes of being a thinner me, I simply want to enjoy the body I have by eating better when possible, and doing more with life in general. 

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I guess it's kind of inevitable to put up one of these post for the new year, and yeah I'll probably do the whole new year, new me thing but I wanted to put out there how exceptionally proud I am of my body. 

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Not only did it grow a baby, but it was sliced open to bring that beautiful, amazing, miracle of ours into this world and I don't think I have ever been so thankful of my body in it's state as it is today. I have the worst posture, I know. 

I stretched y'all my skin hung and looked gross for a while there and there were days I was like ugh, who wants to see this naked?  I had developed this bump of "skin" I guess from J sitting so low my entire pregnancy and I thought it would never go away. I didn't think I would look good in lingerie, or a bikini ever again. And maybe I don't but I am still going to rock the hell out of them.  

I struggled with self-confidence for all of my life, I hated being in front of the camera and I hated my smile [I still want braces], and I was never, ever the girl who got the guy [with the exception of E]. 

BODY GOALS

This year my body goal isn't to necessarily lose weight but to eat better as much as possible, to run more because it is my best stress reliever and I really do love it, and to just tone my body if I can. Plus can I get my booty back? I lost that thing mid pregnancy and haven't found it yet. ๐Ÿคฆ๐Ÿฝโ€โ™€๏ธ

NOTE TO SELF:

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My one tip for myself and you as well is to do as much as you possibly can without making it too hard on yourself because once you start making this a job or something else to do on your list you will grow to hate it, and your goals will get tossed to the side and you'll be left as you were by March or sooner. My plan is to do better this year, I just know that there is a better me out there I just have to get rid of a lot of shit. 

CURRENTLY READING

I am also currently reading  "Get Your Shit Together" by Sarah Knight, I literally just started but I love it so far.  And while I am already feeling like I am going to accomplish great things this year. 

The Truth | Transitioning to a #SAHM

Man I love this little guy so much, I even miss him during his occasional naps when they do happen.  

Transitioning to a Stay at Home Mom

J is a couple of months shy of his 1st birthday, and besides freaking out because I am behind on his party planning, transitioning into a stay at home mom has been much more difficult than I had imagined.  

Especially since some of the mom's I see on IG are all at coffee shops and having nights out on the town. Totally not happening for me, I do go to coffee shops but only by way of their drive-thru all while praying that J stays asleep and doesn't notice the car has stopped and nights out on the town are typically taking out the trash. 

My days consist of daily picking up, washing dishes, cooking dinner, and cleaning house. All of it on top of all of your responsibility of being a mom, taking care of your husband and making yourself look somewhat presentable to the world, while yes trying to lose the "baby weight" [another topic in itself].

For instance, today has been E bringing me breakfast [which is a rare occasion], washing dishes, eating ramen [not the gourmet kind, the kind that college students eat] for lunch, then get J fed and down for a nap, and in between all of that trying to find the time to blog plan and pay bills.

 The problem is E and I had never discussed the "roles" of the household, we just knew that since I wasn't working our entire income would have to come from him working, aka not being home a lot.  ๐Ÿ˜•. So I highly suggest if you are going to make the transition get a plan together and have a sit down discussion about who expects what, etc.

In my case and I'm pretty sure most women/men in this position your spouse [my husband] is now the money-maker, bread-winner, etc., so the one income now lies on the shoulder of just your spouse.  It is pretty overwhelming, & I know exactly how it feels to be the only person in your house working and the burden on your shoulders.  

We have also taken responsibility for a business that my family has run since I was a baby so that is another added stress to us.  Plus taking care of a baby on top of all of that, and trying to make sure he is happy, healthy and everything you hope as a parent you are to him is difficult.

I mean if we are being honest going from not-a-parent, to being a parent is a difficult transition in itself and adding the above stresses to the mix makes it even harder

The past few months have been really hard for me/us, staying home with J is amazing I'm not missing any of his first, dealing with the dramas of the job or the long horrible drive to and from work. I mean I'm not complaining I just on the rare occasion miss being able to not have a child tugging on me or watching my every move and crying if he doesn't see me. 

This transition has been like starting a job in the mailroom of a company and having to work your way to the top and let's just say I am still stuck in the mailroom on most/all days. 

J is now mobile as in getting out of the shopping cart and grabbing on things so unless you want to brave taking out a mobile almost 10 month old or test your patience you spend a lot of time at  home. 

But I always miss him and can't wait to be back home, so the "escape" is never really worth it for me.  

However, the flip side of thing is you get to walk around without pants on for 90% of the day and if the unwelcomed solicitor comes and wants to knock on my door, they on occasion get me in PJ's.  Sorry, not sorry.

The moral of this story is don't be that ass who says "yeah, what does she do all day?" like I did before having one of my own because then you'll find yourself sitting on a couch with baby slobber on your face, and your hair in a mess and you will truly know what she does all day.

So be kind to the mom on the plane with the crying baby, the one juggling her child while opening a door, or the one who looks exceptionally tired because she may have just stayed up all night while her baby kicked her in the side all night. 

But most importantly be kind to one another, you know just in general.   

Stay at Home Mom Life | hello there, love.

Visiting Wimberley, TX

This past weekend was the BEST!  The only thing that was missing was E to join in on the fun.  

I can't believe that J is now 6 months old and we went on his first road trip, everything is a first currently and it is so amazing that he is finally here but time is flying and I just wish it would slow down a little. 

We spent the weekend in Wimberley, and it was beautiful.  I can't wait to go back.  There are so many trails for hiking and the place is just beautiful.  I love the quaintness of it all it is so peaceful.  

We stayed at The Mountain View Lodge and it was the most perfect place to stay while in town.  The couple that runs the place is really sweet as well.  You won't get a concierge or room service while there so make sure you are aware of that, pack snacks that don't require a refrigerator, or microwave if you have the urge for a last night snacks. 

We visited a few places while in the area the good thing is that pretty much everything is close to each other so 20 minutes here, 15 there, 5 minutes there.  So it was nice to see a few things while we were in town. 

Things to do in Wimberley

Purgatory Creek - the trails were beautiful and I definitely want to go back to journey and of course take pictures. 

Jacob's Well - my mom wanted so badly to go to Jacob's Well and was a little underwelmed but I thought it was pretty cool.  You have to make a reservation to go swimming and you do have to walk a trail to get there.  I highly recommend wearing tennis shoes and being very careful I slipped a couple of times and I was holding the baby, so mom was freaking out. 

The Wooden Spoon Ice Cream and Yogurt - This is a quaint little spot in town that had frozen yogurt and all of the fixings.  We came here after dinner and it was nice to stop and relax a bit.  It is like your typical Tutti Fruitti or Menchies but better because it isn't some franchise.  It is decorated like a cozy home with cute tables and nic nacs. 

The Leaning Pear - We had dinner here Saturday night and the view is beautiful. I will have to try this place again, I don't think the particular item I ordered of the menu was great the Blanco Pizza had too much sauce and arugala for my liking. I should've went with my gut and got the meatloaf, my mom ordered the chicken with grits and enjoyed it. 

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Because I love you so.

Hello There, Loves! 

The month of May is kind of a big deal this year because this year I finally get to celebrate Mother's Day. 

I am beyond grateful to be able to celebrate with all of the wonderful Mother's who have helped me become the Mommy I am today.

This past couple of months I may have beaten myself up if it weren't for their words of encouragement, agreeance on how hard the job really is, and helping hands. 

Ladies, I now wish I had taken all those naps you told me to take. ๐Ÿ˜ดย 

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I thank God everyday that we were blessed with our son because without him I wouldn't be a Mother. I wouldn't be able to celebrate the most valuable thing I have ever done in my entire life.

Jaxon Carter, I love you more than anything in this world becoming your mommy has made me the happiest ever. All the years I prayed and waited for you, I wouldn't spend it any other way. You are absolutely the best thing I've ever done with my life. You make me believe in miracles, and your a constant reminder of how I am blessed. My love for you is endless. I love you son, more than you'll ever know.

Happy Mother's Day loves! I'm finally part of the tribe ๐ŸŽ‰๐Ÿฅ‚๐ŸŽ‚