I have been doing a lot of work on “me” this year because an incredibly shitty situation left me feeling sorry for myself and I needed to get out of feeling this way. I have never wanted to be one of those people who felt sorry for themselves, I have always wanted to be a strong independent woman because I was raised that way.Read More
Hi there loves!
Times are changing for your girl, I wasn't too impressed with my skin care routine and was in need of some desperate moisture. I found myself at Ulta grabbing all of the things.
Keep reading if you want to hear more about my current skin care routine and what I did to take my skin from drab to fab!
I am going to go over all of the amazing things I have been doing to keep my skin healthy this year. But first if you haven't read what I eat to keep my skin looking great read this post from last week!
My normal skin care routine was using Dove Body was on my face to remove my make up and then using regular lotion on my face too. I know, I know! I didn't think anything of it until I started wearing make up and my face would feel so dry and blah underneath it all.
While I love makeup and creating looks for the blog, I want to make sure that I am starting with great skin before I apply anything on my face. I also would love to prevent wrinkles and all that jazz.
When I walked into Ulta the girl was restocking this brand and told me it was pretty great, I know how sometimes they are there to promote a specific product during a certain time.
But when I noticed the pricing, she told me that Mario Badescu didn't use fancy packaging so that he could keep cost down so great skin care products could get in the hands of women & men everywhere. Without outrageously breaking the bank, so of course naturally I bought it all.
The glycolic foaming cleanser is used just 2-3 times a week to help with a subtle clean.
The cleansing milk is by far my favorite because it feels like you are applying lotion then washing it away but still keeping all of the moisture.
The facial spray is great for setting makeup and using during those hot days when you need a little less sweat on your face and a little more Rose water.
The glycolic eye cream & skin complex has been so so good for my skin. It feels so refreshed and soft after just a couple of days. Jaxon would even rub my face at times because it was so soft.
The Neutrogena Triple age repair, I picked up to try while I was shopping at Wal-Mart & overall it is a great product, I love that it has SPF 25 in it so I'm also getting sun protection as well.
The hyaluronic eye cream is absolutely amazing at night, I typical don't ever feel
The Rodan & Fields - bright eye complex has been assisting with moisture and those naturally inherited dark circles, now this isn't an overnight success product but I have been loving the changes I have noticed.
This is my go-to mask when I just want a skin refresher, I don't do it everyday even though this is a product you totally can use daily. I use it maybe once or twice every two weeks.
And that sums it up for my current skin care routine.
Be sure you are avoiding things that make you break out as much as humanly possible, and making sure you are getting more nutrients that benefit your skin.
If there are any products you are loving I'd love to know more, catch up with me on social or email me I'd love to hear from you!
“It’s a hell of a responsibility to be yourself. It’s much easier to be somebody else or nobody at all.” - Sylvia Plath
I was scrolling through one of my under-utilized social medias and found this quote up there and it couldn't be more relevant to my life.
I recently took these photos of a beauty look I was hoping to achieve and it totally went in the wrong direction, the light from the day faded and I didn't have the colors I needed to photograph the "look" I thought I wanted. I got something much, much more though.
This blogging thing has been pretty frustrating for me the past couple of years solely because I am refusing to sell myself short and do the entire loop bloggers, follow unfollow thing that all the bloggers do.
I also don't have a lot of support from people who already know me and sometimes I just get totally burnt out when trying to build my followers, but I don't just want people who tap, I want the conversation starters, the lovers and the genuine people that will actually get something from my content and live better lives.
Making a difference here is so much more important to me.
If I make someone feel better, or love themselves more that makes me happier than a bunch of likes on a social media account.
One day my husband told me why don't you just do it for fun and see where it goes, forget about earning money and at first it really pissed me off because I felt like he just didn't understand. Not bringing in an income after leaving my job was tough, I felt useless.
But he was so right. Please don't tell him I said this. Because he is wrong and I am always right.
I can't do what everyone else is doing and expect to stand out because I never will. I have to create something that is all me, all the time.
Of course, I would love, love to at least pay for my makeup and clothing expenses with funds from this year blog because momma loves her some clothes & trying new make-up but what will be, will be. Put it out in the world and it will happen right?
Also shout out to @girrlscout for being one of those inspiring people I have followed for a while now, who made me feel like I could be me and that falling in love with myself was something that was needed not only wanted.
Shadow Palette Urban Decay - Beauty with an Edge
Eylure Eyelashes - Accents No 003
Anastasia Beverly Hills Brow Definer
Maybelline Curvacious Black
Maybelline SuperStay MatteInk - Visionary
Becca Cosmetics Champagne Pop Highlighter
1. Don't sweat the small stuff
Easier said than done I know but if you take a moment to take a breather even when things are INSANE, it can make a huge difference in your attitude/mood.
I can't tell you how many times, I was ready to lose my metaphorical shit but just gave myself a minute to think calmly about the situation or breath and I was able to just blow off whatever was bothering me or find a mentally better solution than the current.
A couple of weeks ago I had an appointment, it wasn't a super important appointment but I had something scheduled.
Okay, I was going to Target with my SIL, it was important but not super important to be on-time.
But that morning J, peed all over both of us which then meant we both had to take a bath. Get breakfast and get dressed all under 30 minutes. I normally give myself at least two hours of "getting ready" time for J and if I find time within those two hours to get make up on my face and my hair half resemble normal, we are lucky.
That wasn't one of those days, but we were just going to Target and so I just let it go. We made it to my SIL on time and the rest of the day was as much of a breeze as possible with J. [He isn't bad just really active since he started walking and it's either get out of the way, or run with him which left us both exhausted.]
2. Compliment Yourself
If no one else is going to do it, give yourself positive affirmations. Have a quote ready every morning that makes you start the day off better than the last and remind you that we only have a limited time on this earth living it upset or in frustration doesn't make it enjoyable.
Being happy is just as easy as being mad. There is a choice in the matter, so choose to be happy.
3. Go out of your own way
I have been working my ass off on this blog and to say that I have been consistently posting for pretty much two months straight and have been able to get blog post pumped out, I am amazed.
For the longest time I have had every. single. excuse in the book for why I haven't been as successful as most. I mean I started doing this years ago before blogging was cool and before bloggers were the go-to influencers. But I got in my own god damn way so I am still where I started 5 years ago, no where.
This years motto is: progress over perfection and quality over quantity.
4. Eat Well
If you know me personally you definitely know that I get hangry and one thing I have learned is that I always need to make sure I have eaten. But with a kid as most of you mom's know it is difficult to actually eat, so I have found ways to take last nights dinner to today's lunch.
I also know that drinking a lot of caffeine has a lot of bad effects on your body, today alone I found out that drinking caffeine during your lady week can cause an increase in cramping.
So add more water to your diet especially before cycle week, it will also help with bloating and water retention which makes you look more pregnant than you actually are [referencing to my body not anyone else's].
I noticed that I drank more water when I finally found a tumbler with a straw, I found this one and I love it. I take it everywhere, ice water is my go-to and I know that there have been studies on this theory but increasing my water intake in general is what I am going for. I do still have sweet tea but I try to cut it to one glass a day, everything else should be water.
I feel like sleep, water, and food are the three pillars of life, if you do all of these you are already on the right track to starting off in a positive way.
I have noticed on the days that I don't get as much sleep I have the toughest day the next day. I do my best to handle situations as best as possible but things can seriously go left just because I didn't have a great night sleep or any sleep at all for that matter. Little ones aren't the greatest sleepers and I've learned the hard way that not putting your little one in their own bed or room is the wrong way to start this entire parent thing. Man I wish I put J in his crib from the start but emotions, Web MD, and SIDS got the best of this new mom.
I know this isn't always possible because Adulting and all but if you don't get a great night sleep, do everyone a favor and set aside time to get in a nap.
I recently found myself in not the greatest of moods because J's sleep has been disturbed for the past two nights but when he went down for a nap I did the same. I woke up feeling much better and was in a much better mood when handling J.
Trust me as a mom we are the hardest on ourselves, we can be our worst critics and sometimes or all the time mostly it feels like the world rest on our shoulders but if I give you one piece of advice if you have the time, take the nap.
I am 6 months post partum and I am finally starting to feel good in my clothing, isn't that crazy?
We need to stop allowing the world to tell us when we should be back to "normal".
I don't have money to pay someone to consistently train me and tell me what to eat. I'm doing the things my gym offers and my life allows. Doing your best is better then doing nothing at all.
I have loose skin because I rapidly grew the first few months I was pregnant and put on 30lbs pretty quickly. Everyone at 6 months would ask if I was due any day now, my answer was always nope 3 more months.
C-sections are no fucking joke, you are sliced open in an area you use to do a lot of things, sitting up being one of them. And honestly you don't realize how much of those muscles you use until you can't use them or it hurts to do so.
Before I got my membership I felt like I was never going to look good again, my ass was flat [still kind of is 🤦🏽♀️], my love handles were huge and I just felt like shit in general. Going to the gym has helped me so much feel better, and eat better because let's be real who wants to eat the little calories they burn during a workout. You eat better, you drink more water, and you exercise you look and feel better.
Now I'm starting to feel better in my clothing and old stuff is getting a little less snug but it took me 6 months and it will take even longer for me to get where I want to be.
I don't feel pressured I just know I can do better and look better.
But I just wanted to put this out there for anyone who felt like they aren't living up to societies standards, because honestly society isn't living up to my standards now a days so fuck society.
What do/did you do to make yourself feel better after baby?